It’s Okay to Be Happy

12 Jan

A good friend of mine recently sent me a song tribute—Beautiful Flower by India Arie. It’s the perfect song for me—a person who struggles every day to be confident and expose my greatness. It speaks to the fact that we all have unique strengths that make us valuable, and that we can succeed in this life because we are “brilliant, … powerful, … [and] resilient.” This is now my theme song. I play it when I need motivation to walk in my greatness. (Needless to say, I’m playing it on repeat right now as I type.)

All week I have struggled to write my blog. I felt stuck, restrained, and frustrated because I received an email a few days ago expressing that my Happily Single design was rejected from becoming a U.S. postage stamp—in short, because it disrespects marriage. I was hurt because although I am balanced enough to see how my design could be misconstrued, “marriage bashing” is not the intention of my design.

My Happily Single design is about celebrating the blessings of singleness, not about saying that marriage “sucks.” It’s about encouraging people, who, like myself, had a marriage “fail,” see that there is life after divorce—and it can be a happy one! It’s about letting people know it’s okay to celebrate when you’re happy. Being Happily Single is about recognizing that the state of being single is just as valuable as the state of being married….

The great thing about having my design rejected is that it helped me to realize, and fine tune, the intended message of my collection. The purpose of the Happily Single Collection by MDillon Designs is to encourage singles to enjoy life—to not spend our days longing when we can be living. It gives validation to those who at this time choose not to be coupled. Being single is a great opportunity to actualize your dreams freely (that is, unless your only dream was to be married, lol). Your purpose in this life was clearly written before you fell in, or waited for, love. So live your life on purpose, happily.

*Thank you for reading! Please check out the MDillon Designs Happily Single Collection and please share it with a friend.

Happily Single Tee by MDillon Designs

"It's totally possible to be Happily Single."


5 responses to “It’s Okay to Be Happy

  1. Nicola D

    January 13, 2012 at 11:52 am

    Beautifully expressed. Now it’s my turn to take inspiration from you and get my blogs done. I look forward to reading more. Nic xx

  2. Kicki

    January 13, 2012 at 3:44 pm

    Keep on celebrating, Marlene :), I believe your message will reach those that you intend to reach! Even though it might take a little longer than expected. By, with your own words, putting one foot in front of the other and keeping on marching. I believe you’ll have even more to celebrate in the future … 😀

    You know, I do honestly love your designs – and the India Arie song went right on to my Spotify playlist!



  3. realnhonest

    January 14, 2012 at 12:36 am

    Thank you both. I really appreciate the feedback and encouragement. It’s an awesome thing to FINALLY be doing what I was created to do and experiencing the blessing of having it empower others. I look forward to continuing to grow in courage, confidence, and in freely sharing my gifts.
    @Kicki – That song is soooo awesome! Glad u liked it! 🙂
    @My kindred, cuz – I’m looking forward to experiencing your work. (I mean, we are the same person, lol).

  4. Victoria C. Slotto

    January 14, 2012 at 12:34 pm

    How very sad that the government would reject being single as a way of life. Everyone is called to something different and sacred in its own way. But then it seems that rejection is a part of an artist/writer’s daily bread! My novel (recently published) has a big file of rejections from agents and publishers who didn’t want to see it. And so it is!

    • realnhonest

      January 19, 2012 at 9:59 pm

      Thanks Victoria. I can’t say the gov’t. exactly but according to the guidelines they set for what designs are acceptable the company I work with was unable to print it. Still hurt either way, though. Thanks for understanding the message behind my work and for commenting. I’ll be reading more of your work and sure you’ll be reading more of mine. 🙂


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